I hear a lot of excuses from women for why they SHOULDN’T do a boudoir session, so I wanted to address some of the top excuses I hear and why they shouldn’t keep you from scheduling a session for yourself.
#1 – I need to lose weight first
This is the most common excuse I hear for why someone won’t book a boudoir shoot. Your shoot is about so much more than just the shape of your body. It’s my job to make you comfortable so I can capture your genuine laugh, the sparkle in your eyes, and all the other quirks that make you “YOU”. It’s also my job to make sure you are posed in a way to showcase your best features and make you look incredible. You are not defined by your size, so don’t let it keep you from feeling good about the incredible woman you are.
#2 – I don’t have anyone to give the photos to
While some women book a shoot to give as a gift to their partner, every woman agrees after doing their shoot that it was actually a gift to themself. Your session is more than just a photoshoot. It’s a chance for you to spend a few hours doing something that is just for you. You will get pampered with hair and make-up, girl talk, champagne, a supermodel experience and the icing on the cake are the gorgeous photos. This shoot is really only about one person – YOU.
#3 – I’m a mom so I can’t be sexy
Becoming a mom doesn’t mean that you stop being a woman. As a mom myself I know how easy it can be to lose yourself in motherhood. You are constantly taking care of other people and your needs get put last. I especially hear a lot of moms feeling guilty for spending time and money on themselves instead of their kids. I’m a big believer that you can’t pour from an empty cup, and that it’s important for kids to have a mom that is comfortable in her own skin and loves and accepts her body. Wouldn’t you want your kids to be able to love and accept their bodies without self-criticism and doubt? So you my mom friend need this more than anyone!
#4 – I shouldn’t spend money on myself
Think of it as an investment in your self-confidence. An investment in yourself IS an investment in your family. Not only that, but these portraits will likely be one of the only things you purchase this year that actually appreciate in value over time.
#5 – I don’t do lingerie
Who said you need lingerie? The best outfits are those that are true to your identity. If lingerie isn’t your thing – let’s figure out what your version of “sexy” is. Maybe it’s your man’s oversized dress shirt and tie on your womanly figure – or maybe it’s his Cowboys jersey. You really can’t go wrong with the basics – a white cami or a black dress can be as sexy as thigh highs any day.
#6 – I don’t want my pictures on the internet
I take your privacy very seriously, and only post images with 100% consent of our clients. We understand that doing a boudoir shoot is an incredibly personal endeavor, and you are in complete control of where your images exist after your shoot.
#7 – I’m not photogenic
Most women walk into the studio saying “I’m not very photogenic” and leave feeling like a supermodel! This will be the most guided experience of your life. It’s not your job to know how to pose; it’s my job to know how to coach you. All the women you see in my gallery are regular gals, they are not models, and they are not any different than you. If you bring me your authentic self and a few of your favorite items of clothing, I will show you how sexy you already are.
#8 – I have no idea how to do my own hair and make-up
I have an amazing hair/make-up artist that is part of every Paisley Layne boudoir session. She will make you look like the best version of you while still making sure you look like yourself. Having that professional hair and make-up artist not only takes the stress off of you, but it allows you to enjoy your session even more.
#9 – I don’t have a reason to do a session
Next to needing to lose weight, this is one of the more popular excuses I hear…and I get it! A boudoir session can easily seem like a luxury that requires a special occasion. In reality, you don’t need a reason to do a session other than wanting to boost your self-confidence and capture your amazing beauty.
#10 – [Insert your excuse here]
Your fear and self-doubt can come up with endless reasons for you to not do anything outside your comfort zone. It’s a biological response to anything we deem “scary”. It’s up to you to choose if you’re going to be more loyal to your fears, or to yourself. If you’d like to learn more about doing a boudoir shoot, send me an email and let’s chat. I would love to help show your inner rockstar